Thursday, January 1, 2015

Holidays | New Years' Reflections of Highlights, Insights, + Hopes [2014-2015]

Hi Neighbors,

Happy New Year!

First snow of the season! (above)
Narnia? Lamp at chapel + school (above)
Here I share my New Year's reflections as highlights, insights, and hopes of 2014 as we approach the bend for 2015.

Highlights

At Piazza tree lighting with my friend (above)
Insights


Moonrise + sunsets for my walks (above 2)
  • Make the most of "fallow" or threshold time (limen) when God is breaking apart ground to soon bring the rain of love and right doing into my life (Hosea 10:12). Learned and practiced as much as I could/can about healthy relationships and be diligent with my vocational calling(1 Tim. 4:14-16).
  • Peace comes by detaching from expectations of outcomes. Be willing to let go before the bargaining table. Explore options. Choose. Make timely decisions to align with my personal and professional values. The challenge of difficult deciding under time constraints becomes easier when aligning personal with organizational values, and moving towards a better situation or goals instead of only away from a mismatched situation.
  • Inspect and adapt. It is okay to flex and change one's mind. Better to communicate, evaluate, prepare, and choose a company of people who support decisions for health and well-being instead of resisting, handling, or enforcing the status quo. At the same time, love "bears all things" (1 Cor. 13).
  • Grace and grace to show kindness and courtesy. Yet also recipathy (intuition) of my own feelings and wants to take care of myself. Integrity means living as a whole person with my relationships, and endeavors, and making decisions that benefit homeless.
  • Telling myself and others the truth in love (see Backus here and here).
  • Rest, recharge, have fun, make the most of transitions, celebrate Advent as a season for hopeful anticipation, and no is a complete sentence.
  • Adventure where you are!
  • Here's something scandalous:  The ideal for love is not unconditional, transactional, or reciprocal, but shared.  So for something seemingly contradictory:  Draw close to people who communicate connection, contribute to the relationship with time, presence, character, and intention, and respect boundaries, or who also understand love as shared.
  • Practice kindness always! when I was standing in line at the post office – a long, long, long line – I noticed at least five people to acts of kindness towards others, which inspired me to give a kind gesture before I left.  Doing so helped me to refocus on something pleasant while waiting.
  • Learn the social art of smalltalk (here, here, and here).  Remember that the point is to get to know people, and to share appropriately about yourself (also here ♪).
At a holiday party with family and friends (above)
Hopes


Lessons + Carols (above 2)
Decor + fun for Festivus (above)
  • Learn to live at peace with one's self. Peace comes from within, and from God's spirit, and not from relationships, circumstances, or even resources however much we might need those. Find a way of self-control and perseverance to be at ease regardless the circumstances, be courageous, and trust that God goes with me wherever I go.
  • I hope for greater peace and confidence, the affirmation that I am a loving person, and the resolution of important goals for me in 2015.
... Above your deep and dreamless sleep,
The silent stars go by.
Yet in thy dark streets shineth
The everlasting Light,
The hopes and fears of all the years,
Are met in thee tonight.
~ O Little Town Of Bethlehem Lyrics via MetroLyrics

More sunsets (above)
What lessons or insights have you learned for 2014? What do you hope for in 2015?

Kindly,
Ever,
Lots of Love,
Dena